Why do I regret becoming a mom, even if I wanted it?

Question from Isabella M., 32, United States. Mama to 3-month-old baby boy.

Oh mama, I hear you — and you're braver than you know for saying it. 

Regret doesn’t mean you don’t love your baby.
It just means you didn’t ask for the exhaustion, the isolation, the feeling of your old self slipping away. 💔
What you wanted was love, joy, connection — not losing yourself in the process.

I remember being terrified to even think the word "regret" after my twins were born. I thought it made me a bad mom. But when I finally whispered it to a friend, she said, “Me too.”
And that moment cracked something open. In a good way. It made space for self-compassion. 

It’s okay to grieve your old life while being grateful for your new one.
Both can exist at the same time.
For me, reclaiming myself started with the tiniest step:
Wearing a soft, stretchy nursing bra that made me feel alive again — not trapped or erased.

That tiny shift gave me permission to want comfort, support, and a little bit of me back.
It’s what eventually inspired Bloom & Heal — because we deserve to be nurtured too. 

You are not broken, mama. You're just waking up to the fact that you still matter.

Love,
Lina P.