Is it bad that sometimes I want to scream at my baby?

Question from Sara K., 31, Oregon. Mom of a 7-month-old baby girl.

No, mama. It’s not bad — it’s human.
If you’ve ever found yourself Googling “why do I feel so angry after having a baby?” or “is postpartum rage normal?” — I promise, you’re not alone.

I used to think something was wrong with me.
Why was I snapping at everything? Why did I feel a rage boiling under my skin just from the sound of one more cry?
I remember locking myself in the bathroom — twins screaming on the other side of the door — crying into a towel because I was afraid of how much I wanted to scream back.

Here’s the truth no one tells you: postpartum anger is real.
You’re running on no sleep, your hormones are crashing, your body is sore, and everyone expects you to be glowing with gratitude. But what you’re actually feeling is overstimulated, under-supported, and invisible.

And that’s not your fault.

What helped me wasn’t some perfect schedule or self-help mantra. It was small, physical relief — choosing comfort over punishment. I stopped wearing bras that stabbed into my ribcage and started wearing ones I could sleep in, nurse in, breathe in. Ones that reminded me I still deserved to feel softness on my skin.

That one change — that moment of choosing myself — helped me pause before I yelled. It helped me exhale instead of explode.

That’s how Bloom & Heal was born: in the gap between love and exhaustion, where real moms live every day.
We make nursing and postpartum bras that feel like a hug — not another burden.

So no, you're not a bad mom. You're just burned out. And you deserve so much more support than you’ve been given.

Love,
Lina P.